Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success | Louise Evans

I have a story to tell you from my personal life. And I was trying to build a stronger relationship with a very important person, the daughter of my partner, 20-year-old daughter. To do that, I thought, “Let’s have a great evening out, just the two girls together.”

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Translator: Hui chu Chen I’d like to introduce you to these five chairs because they are actually the real protagonists of my talk. They have a special message to give to all of us, and the message is about what behaviors and attitudes we bring into the world in every moment. Now, to show you what I mean, I have a story to tell you from my personal life. And I was trying to build a stronger relationship with a very important person, the daughter of my partner, 20-year-old daughter. To do that, I thought, “Let’s have a great evening out, just the two girls together.” And I chose a special venue, the Blue Note Jazz Club in Milan. That night, the Manhattan Transfer, which is my favorite jazz group, were playing. So, we meet, atmosphere is fantastic. We are getting on very well, and I’m happy. Being a baby boomer, loving the music, I thought, “Well, is she liking it as much as I am?” So in that moment, I just turned to look at her to check. And what did I see? I saw this. 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